So you want to get back together with your ex? You are wanting to try it again? What makes you think it is going to be any better this time than the last time? There may have been a point where you thought that things were going alright and everything was under control. Obviously it wasn't.
Something went wrong and either you were too late in reacting to correct the situation or you were just blind to the problems. Was it something that you did that caused it to fall apart or was it something both of you did? What was it that you could have done to change things? Did you know that things needed to be addressed but you never got around to it? These are only some of the questions you need to be asking if you want to get back together with your ex and are sure you want to try it again.
There is a quote many people throw around that many attribute to Albert Einstein. “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results .” There is a lot of truth to this, especially when there is a marriage or relationship that is needing to be rebuilt or they want to get back together with their ex.
Many people will go into a reconciliation effort but will go in pretending that nothing happened. They will go in and try to pick up where they left off but that is exactly what they end up doing. If the marriage ended because of some problem that one or the both of you didn't address then it will probably end the same way again.
Whatever problems you had prior to breaking up, you better work to get them fixed before you work to get back together with your ex. If there was something that you had a problem with then fix it. Get counseling or therapy if you need to but, no matter what, address your own situations first.
If it is the other person in the relationship who had some issues that caused the relationship to end. Make sure that they have taken credible steps to fix the issues. When you are wanting to get back together and they haven't done anything to fix things on their end then you will be dealing with it all over again.
If the two of you had issues together that tore you apart, get some relationship counseling to try and work things out and get back together. Don't try to jump back into things when you will likely only be trying to jump back out again. Don't try getting back together if you are going to run into the same problems again.
Why is it that you are trying to get back together with your ex? If it is because you really love each other and you want to be together forever, then try to get things fixed before you start messing things up again. If you don't address situations that tore you apart the first time it is likely that you are just going to be causing a cycle of pain and broken hearts.
If you think that you want to get back together with your ex, save yourself from future heartache, fix the issues before they end your relationship forever.
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